8 Mistakes Men Don’t Make


I saw two amazing women speak this week about mistakes that men don’t make.  They presented eight ways that women sabotage their own credibility and results in their business and personal lives. I wish I could recommend a book on the subject by Carol Spieckerman and Lisa Carver, but they’re too busy in being retail experts. They wrote Ready, Set, Whoa! Are You Really Ready for Retailers that leads new vendors through a series of questions to determine if they are ready to meet with retailers.

I’m no retailer, but as Spieckerman and Carver reminded me yesterday, we’re all in sales.

This is going to be a series based on eight mistakes women make. Here’s the short list:

1. Seeking Validation

2. Hoping for the Best

3. Avoiding Confrontation

4. Resisting Duality (this one’s very interesting….)

5. Blending In

6. Diminishing

7. Making It Personal

8. Taking It Personal

Over the next couple of weeks I’ll be sharing what I learned and some examples from my own failures (and successes). I hope you’ll join in the conversations. And guys, while these mistakes are made more often by women, you’re not immune. I promise if you come back with an open mind you’ll learn something too!

Image Credit: Truth Went Trendy

  • The 9th, 10th, and 11th mistakes women make:
    – Write typos in their links
    – Continue the urge of society to make women change themselves (how to be better wives, lovers, improve our looks, act like men, etc., etc.) – unlike men feel the need to
    – Continue to pit women against women when we endorse and pander to resources that want us to act more like men
    I’m sure there are more, but unlike Lela Davidson I don’t feel the need to self-promote at the expense of either gender…

  • come back with an open mind you’ll learn something too! – VERY WELL said .. I love that quote.

  • I love how you are playing our presentation forward, Lela!

  • Ollulia, thanks so much for your comments, especially pointing out my spelling error. We’re working without a net here sometimes and I appreciate any help I can get.

    As to your 10th mistake – I’m always changing, and when I find an idea I like, I do urge others to change too. As for the gender aspect of it, I don’t think it serves any purpose to ignore biology and millennia of social training. I would argue that men have more historical experience in business than women, unless we’re talking the ‘oldest profession’, but that’s another post.

    Regarding your proposed 11th mistake – no endorsements or pandering here – just some honest support for a couple of women I discovered have something to say. Also, men do pit women against each other every day, even though they really don’t have to – do they – if we’re busy taking care of that job for them?

    I hope you’ll come back to comment on the substantive posts that follow.

  • i am a man and i have only made one of those mistakes and haven’t done since then. you put it on the dot with what you said

  • Gabriela Valdes

    I see myself doing this, thanks for sharing

    May we be loving and validate ourselves and learn how to stop searching for validation, it is only ouselves who put our own selves down, incredible!