I wrote a few days ago about an employee of mine who doesn't want to change. I tried the carrot and the stick. I tried subtle hints. I tried everything I knew how to do. I may have stumbled upon something that worked (we'll see in a few weeks).
I backed off. I quit giving him any direction or any hints of how things might be going. I watched him flounder, while he actually thought he was doing ok. Then I went in after 4 days of this, not with a message about my disappointment, but with a message about his failings as a leader. I don't like confrontation, but I have a significant financial and personal stake in the success of this business, so I got over that real quick.
I left the meeting thinking it had little effect. But the next day he told me he hadn't slept, that I had "hit him like a ton of bricks" and that he didn't appreciate that. Maybe so, but nothing else was working, so the ton-of-bricks approach was all I had left. I will keep you all posted on how this turns out.